Recently I told some guy, "FUCK OFF, go away" when he wouldn't leave me alone, and he sat down anyway.
One time some guy threw me up against the wall and choked me when I said no. I REALLY wish I could have missed that opportunity.
Dude, it's really not up to women to make sure guys behave and don't act like jerks -- or worse. Really, it's not. Fuck opportunity. I just want to feel safe and comfortable and not be bothered or feel stressed out FOR MERELY EXISTING, and no, I don't think it's up to me to make sure a grown adult man acts right.
"Isn't that another step in the dance."
Some of those dances turn deadly. And why the hell should I feel obligated to "dance" for MERELY EXISTING?
Just because I'm out in public, it doesn't mean I'm consenting toward some fucked up mating "dance". I'm just trying to live my life.
You're under the assumption that every interaction with men asking for numbers is desired or appropriate. And, no, merely drinking at a bar doesn't mean I've conented to whatever vague "dance" you've come up with in your head.