Well, do you think this "pretty and nice" pressure is something that upsets the average conservative?
I don't know how you could think her pride in her de-gendered kids rings like a positive thing anywhere but the left. Granted, Boing Boing is a small world, but I think we have all share a basic concept of where each side (at least on the extremes) stands on gender norms.
But I'd guess we're all familiar with the tendency for folks outside of the political mainstream insist that they sit squarely in the objective center on things like gender identity, death panels, intelligent design, veganism.
This girl may be a fantastic kid, but the conflation here of mom's politics and uncritical assessment of her own kids makes for a pretty stinky brew to me.
Do you not see yourself insulting every woman who is pretty and nice here? They are fake? The only way to be real is to be ugly and unpleasant? To make it hard for other people to like you?
The mere existence of other human beings that want things from you does not destroy your personality -- not nearly so much as the sociophobic insistence that one's personality is under constant threat by others. (You do impressive work avoiding cognitive dissonance when you read this story about a child being molded into a political statement by her mother, and see someone whose personality has escaped social pressure)