It isn’t like this is completely unknown closer to home. How is an engagement ring any different in any case? There’s even a rule of thumb that it should cost 3 month’s salary. Is giving an engagement ring or a dowry functionally equivalent to buying a person? Then there are other money-related imbalances of power:
Even at a dating level, there seems to be an uncomfortable amount of perceived entitlement associated with paying for food and drinks.
I think there are a number of issues that relate to the balance of power in a particular marriage model. Dowries can be a way for the bride to have some security if things go wrong. It can be seen as evidence that the future husband is serious about the relationship and will provide for the family. Arranged marriages are not necessarily forced, and our society’s discomfort with them isn’t necessarily shared by others. As in the west, it’s possible to change cultural practices to make them more equal while maintaining some of their distinctive elements.
