As a human, couldn’t agree more. As a spouse, I think it’s reasonable to weigh the combined earnings potential of both partners in a marriage, especially with regards, as you said, to the financial security of their family. In a non-capitalist or at least post-scarcity culture of sufficient abundance that earnings didn’t equal survival, it wouldn’t be necessary. But in a capitalist society at our level of development, we have to plan to take care of the base of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.
Ditto.
I’m certainly on board with that! I just want to make sure we pursue that goal in a way that won’t backfire and/or denigrate the very cultures of the people for whom we want those rights.
Another small caveat. Since I don’t believe in any Higher Powers, I don’t think any right is, as a practical matter, inalienable. But there are some from which I believe people never should be alienated. Thomas Paine was on the right track. We just need to realize that even if I’m wrong and there is some kind of deity in humanity’s corner, it’s up to us to defend our rights if we want to hold on to them. And the best way to do that is to take care of each other by watching out for each other’s rights. All humans are siblings 
