[Using your comment as excuse to rant further]
I’m so frustrated with blaming people for failing to engage with right-wingers. I am very strategic with my communication to my young children because I don’t expect them to be able to listen to straight talk like adults. But the idea that I’d be strategic with racists because if I call them racist I will hurt their feelings and make them retreat further into racism drives me nuts. I’m not the world’s kindergarten teacher. I am exactly the same kind of dumb ape as the person I am talking to.
I’m tired of the idea that people who call out racism and fight against racism are somehow responsible for racism or the dismal state of us vs. them politics. It only makes sense if those who are against racism are expected to be the adults while those who are racist are the children. I saw an interview with a black woman who was pretty chill about some racist thing Trump did and the interviewer said, “Do you ever get tired of being the bigger person?” and she said, “As a black woman in America, you always have to be the bigger person.” Do fragile white people have any clue how they look from outside their bubble? (the answer is “no”)
