As far as I can tell, no one is gaslighting you. Nobody has tried to tell you that you are not feeling what you are feeling or that you haven’t experienced what you have experienced. What I have been trying to share is that it does not appear that your experience is typical and that you may find some relief with professional help. Perhaps I’m wrong, but there’s not much to lose to seeking advice from a doctor.
Bottom line: Your feelings are legit. My feelings are legit. But we can’t extrapolate society from that small of a small sample size.