I’ve got to jump in here because I think you’re conflating some things. “Gaslighting” specifically means denying that an individual is actually experiencing what they report - whether that experience is an internal, subjective experience (“You’re not depressed”) or an external, observable experience (“The lights aren’t flickering.”). Your personal experience has been affirmed in this thread - repeatedly. I disagree with your use of cherry-picked pop culture and old data to support generalizing your experience to an entire sex/gender - but I would never tell you that your experiences are not real.
Based on your posts, I gather that you experience your libido as something that doesn’t fit with your ideal self. If you are suffering from intrusive sexual thoughts or feelings and it makes you unhappy, why not seek out a sex positive therapist with whom you can talk about it? It doesn’t mean you’re broken or crazy, just that you have some investigating that you could do. I’d also recommend reading Dr. David Ley - his latest book ETHICAL PORN FOR DICKS and his previous work THE MYTH OF SEX ADDICTION may be of interest to you. He is sex and kink positive, and is pushing for an understanding and study of what healthy male sexuality might actually look like. You might find it interesting and useful.
