I find your final example to be one of hypocrisy more than irony.
And though I get what you’re saying, I think your story of your sister doesn’t work. She’s pro-choice. She should be allowed not to consider adopting, without judgment, IMO. Franks is pro-birth; he should back up his convictions by adopting rather than surrogacy. Again, IMO.
I’m sticking with my original statement, and defend my use of “ironic.”