Hang out with different people, maybe? “Everyone” is a lot, and you probably haven’t gotten everyone’s opinion, and likely shouldn’t rely on it. Some of the people who’ve given you opinions might be assholes. You don’t need to be married to have a kid. You don’t need to have a kid of your own to be a big brother. You don’t need to be more “alpha” than your wife/partner. Some women like gentlemen who are gentle men, if that’s what you mean. There are people from my high school who likely thought I was too gentle and quiet, and that it was weird that I’d rather read and play D&D then play/watch sports. Fuck those people. I’ve had a daughter, and still try to spoil her. We are making rainbow slime and baking cookies this weekend. I don’t know if that’s alpha, beta, gamma or delta, and don’t much care. ETA: I’m not saying it’s not frustrating. Folks in every decade of life find the dating/cohabitating/parenting thing a palaver. Best of luck.
12 Likes
