This (draft) IETF memo pretty convincingly argues for why this terminology should be deprecated, with citations and everything, and examples of how this terminology really does harm diversity in technical fields:
https://tools.ietf.org/id/draft-knodel-terminology-00.html
It’s not “banning words”, it’s considering the way the words we use are understood by the people with whom we’re communicating - which is what ultimately matters, more than the intention of the author.
