I’m pretty sure autistic people internalise plenty of things from their culture, including ideas about gender. I see this both in my own experience, and also from reading sites for autistic people like Wrong Planet. The messages often seem to be received in a different way (and perhaps not as strongly), but you’re not isolated from them and there’s the same pressure from being exposed to different experiences or expectations as a man or woman. Specifically on the topic of this thread, I see a lot of comments from autistic men that make assumptions about gender dynamics approaching MRA territory - women are only into jerks / you can’t understand them / friendzoning etc. Basically results of finding it difficult to understand or negotiate relationships and attempts to develop theories to explain them. Bitterness about feeling left out mixed with entitlement etc. This part of toxic masculinity doesn’t seem to be absent at all, and in fact may be more pervasive. There are plenty of exceptions, but it’s there.
While I find it refreshing to see a forum with people who also view many social norms as arbitrary and things to be negotiated and possibly rejected, it doesn’t mean that this always happens in practice or that autistic people are as untouched by culture as they (we) would like to think.
