There’s your problem. Wrong Planet has become a toxic dumping ground. I would avoid it, because I do avoid it.
I knew WP’s founder, and that guy is a complete sociopath. Another reason for me to stay away.
MRAs prey on people who don’t really understand social dynamics, and offer solutions that make sense at first blush to guys who are good and pissed off and don’t have a whole lot of real world experience, but fall apart at closer inspection. “Women are only into jerks”. Jerk to you doesn’t mean a jerk to everybody. “Friendzone”. If you’re pretending to be a nice guy (see, “minimally decent human being”) just to get in a woman’s pants, that same woman would probably prefer someone who actually is a decent human being and doesn’t have to pretend.
This, this, and all of this. The needy sycophant thing reminds me of what some people call “Christian nice”. Like, when someone goes out of their way to be nice to you, they might be trying to proselytize to you. Growing up in the Midwestern US, I’ve learned this is often the case, and even when it isn’t the case, cloying niceness almost certainly means someone wants something, usually for nothing. It is really obvious, and really annoying.
I wouldn’t go as far to say I’m totally untouched by groupthink, but I tend to be very skeptical of it. Some of it is ingrained in me, but in trying to figure out how society functions, I have really had to examine a lot of stuff in my life and weed out the bullshit.
