Agreed, a lot of the attraction of toxic masculinity is this feeling that the only way out of the masculine status game is to “win” it. A 6’4" rock star isn’t immune, he’s just already “won.”
A few people have offered solutions like, don’t listen to other people! Escape society totally! Both of those are also just victory conditions of the toxic game: the asshole who doesn’t care about anyone else, or the survivalist who doesn’t need anyone else – except, often, as audience to his boasts of independence 
If there is a solution it must instead come from caring for each other and relying on each other.
