As I commented in another thread, nothing beats being informed and empowered to make good choices for yourself. Discussing sexuality with parents, teachers and contemporaries in a natural way that presents the many options and different ways to have healthy relationships. Knowing that you are trusted to make informed decisions without shame for the decisions you do make. Knowing the patterns of healthy and abusive relationships and that you have options in the event of abuse. Having a culture behind you that does not tolerate abuse.
My main problem with your system (and it is a big one) is that it’s a top down, controlling approach that will be resisted. It doesn’t respect people’s agency and assumes gender relations that are far from the norm around the world. Toxic masculinity is not maleness, or else there would be very little basis for hope. It’s a cultural value that is taught, just as more respectful values can be taught, and are taught in other countries. Without it, any system is probably doomed to fail. With it, people can negotiate their own relationships on a more individual basis, without the need for a system at all.
This is going to be particularly difficult to achieve with adults who weren’t taught respect as children and aren’t surrounded by a culture of respect. On the other hand, it may be more important than ever.
