“Thoughtful use.”
I think if white people put thought into it, they wouldn’t want to use it more than anyone had to, and you don’t have to to have a thoughtful discussion about 99% of things. Are you putting thought into your desire to see the word more in life, from white people’s mouths?
Because “thoughtful use” is what everyone is currently suggesting, and thoughtful use means almost zero good contexts for white people to use it, and none of those contexts are “dropping it like any other boring word”.
