Why don’t you, as a white person:
- Listen to what Mr. Coates said about that word
- Read what other people have written here in this thread about that word
- Don’t get upset because you can’t use that word
- Don’t get upset when other people use that word
- Stop asking why you can’t use that word
- Accept that you can’t use that word
And then,
- Don’t use that word.
It’s not difficult.