I never said you did. My point was that even if we are widely traveled, we can’t really know even a wide swath of humanity. Making judgements based on only our own experiences are going to be inherently biased… not just you or men or me or everyone on this board or every geek–this is true of everyone on the planet. The truth is no matter how much we travel, read, write, or engage, there is only so much experience we can soak up. That’s not a slight aimed at you, I think it’s just the reality of the frailties and limitations of the human condition.
I really don’t see how you got this out of what I said. I think you are working hard to give your daughter the tools she needs to negotiate a tough world. I think that’s great and I really do applaud you for it. I wish more people would. It’s not easy for those of us looking to give our kids a more open mind, because we all have our own biases, both which we are conscious and unconscious of. I asked you that because it really is something I myself struggle with too. I came realize my own rejection of feminine stuff often stems from my own internalization of misogynistic ideas about women and the value of “feminine” pursuits versus “masculine” ones - collecting comics is cool, but collecting beanie babies is not, for example. Not only do we live in a culture which denigrates women, it embraces “traditionally masculine” things over “traditionally feminine” things–notice the scare quotes.
Let me see if I can make my point clearer by using anecdotal evidence… 
Kevin Smith gave a talk a couple of years ago a San Diego comic-con. He mentioned Twillight Fandom during the course it, which his daughter was into. The crowd booed and he pointed out how misogynistic it was to bash twillight fandom, but to act like Star Wars or Star Trek fandom is any less weird… I think he made some comment about guys dressed up like Wookies or Spock while slamming Twi-hards and how silly that is. His point was that the reason why people crap all over Twillight was because it was “girly” hence less worthy of a fandom somehow. Without arguing for Twillight (which I really have no interest in and I think has real issues), I do think he’s right in that lots of the vitriol hurled at the franchise is less about how good the stories are and more about the target market, which is young women. People kind of do the same to the My Little Pony fandom, I think, but to a lesser extent. I think some of that comes from the Brony phenomenon, though I’ve seen some nastiness aimed at bronies because they are into a “girls” show.
I honestly am not trying to tear you down. I don’t think you’re a bully and I do think you care about this stuff in the way that matters. When someone offers an alternative opinion, it might not just be that they are looking to make you into the bad guy. I have no interest in that and think it just alienates people–there fore, it is not a useful tactic. I just think that saying that because most of the women you know aren’t into fandom/geek culture sort of misses the point about misogyny in geek culture.
And honestly, being a young woman in America, Britain, or really ANYWHERE is really hard. I know because I used to be one and barely escaped with my sanity/life. I want for your daughter the same I want for mine–to be strong and have the tools she needs to not only live in the world as it is, but maybe do something to make it better. If I came off as harsh and rude, my apologies. It was not my intent to do so.
