Hmm. Really? If a man did this, it might come off extra creepy or just awkward. Anything forced will come off that way. So you might get what you’re after, but the person helping you may be doing so to get rid of your creepy leering and leaning routine.
How about just being genuinely empathetic? What happened to that “technique”? I’d rather demonstrate genuine empathy and hope for the best because that’s the way I prefer to connect. One has to be and feel genuinely empathetic however, not just act like it. To me it feels more genuine that way, appears less forced, and the result is 50% manipulative instead of 100%. I actually find it easier because it’s real. Even if I don’t get what I want it’s still good practice, and I feel better about the way I went about it.
Everybody’s body language is slightly different. It’s subtle nuance that says “I’m nice and genuinely empathize with your situations and your job as a _______”. How you flash a smile and even the way you say “hi” is a cue. An empathetic attitude is recognized as such almost as fast as facial recognition cues. So why not promote being yourself, even if that means being clumsy. Because people with the power also respond positively to vulnerability.
