I guess. I do indeed applaud the effort taken to write such a book, I don’t want the critique to overshadow that. I wonder though if, by celebrating that, we’re not enforcing the stereotype that in fact, this is an aberration which “normally wouldn’t happen”.
I’m going to paraphrase a good friend of mine here, whose comment on the subject wasn’t in English: it might be that with this more ‘traditional’ presentation, less enlightened families might be coaxed in, the potential worry then being that more people see the stereotyped pictures, thus perpetuating the images/expectations of societal gender roles. (which was basically my original worry about propagation of status quo)
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But yes, in the end people have to make up their own minds, so in principle I agree with the way you sketch your personal approach – I should perhaps allow people to choose what they want, without second-guessing whether that may be simply a reflection of societal pressures.
Thanks for your civil and thoughtful replies! 
