What annoyed me back when I lived in the dorms were the girls (women most of us were under 21… anyway) would come in to the shared tv area kvetching ‘men are assholes’ and I would be like excuse me and then they replied ‘no not you you’re nice’… 
(and to be honest the ones that did that were not really ones I wanted to date anyway still good kids but not ones I wanted to ask out)
However it did give me the learnin’ to treat them as just other people and it’s no big deal if they say no to me asking them out.
