Well, the data tells us that trans women are women and trans men are men. Psychology, biology, medical science, sociology, all these fields of study have been recognizing people as this. So, in turn, your data as an actuary should reflect this as well.
Um, I personally want to be remembered (YES, including in any documentation pretaining to me) as the woman I am, not a man. I live my life as a woman, I exist in spaces as a woman. I am not a man and to have that reflected in my death is a horrible thing to me. Do you want to have the documentation of your entire existence to reflect a gross inaccuracy like that? I highly doubt it.
