If I understand you, you’re saying that the woman in this case has proven she is committed to the relationship because she’s stuck it out for 9 months, so now it’s safe to tell her. But after 9 months, she’s over-committed. I know my immediate reaction would be to think I’d been living a lie for 9 months. Imagine if you found out 9 months into a relationship that “oh, by the way, I have stage 4 cancer and will die before the end of the year”. Or, “my father the king has died so I have to go back now to rule my country”. How was that not discussed 8 months earlier, you know? It’s not incumbent on her to prove her loyalty to him. He has to be an equal partner, or else he’s manipulating her to get what he wants.
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