Have you tried looking for women that share the same sorts of cognitive space as you, who are also neutral-atypical (is that the right phrase)? It might also help to be upfront about these issues with anyone, but especially women you’re interested in dating.
Why not find interest groups that aren’t male only? I know you think engineering is a male activity (or you seem to think so, at least), but there are women who are into just the same geeky stuff and love engineering.
I know… that’s called life and there is something that tears ALL of us down. You can’t make that any better by assuming that all women are the same. It really will just add on instead of doing any good for you.
Have fun with the rocket science!
