I get that. However, I have also been on the ‘still living and left to deal with the suicide of someone I love’ too often to be blandly accepting of such a selfish choice.
I am not diminishing clinical depression or anything else. I am rejecting suicide as an appropriate response. No, people in that state don’t get that there is a future or a way out. But they need to, and we need to do our best to help them find it. And sometimes it won’t work and they will commit suicide. And it will still be a selfish choice.