What if the kid is the one mainly perpetuation the deceit, and lack of trust and respect? You’ve had the talks. You have had counseling. He/she has out right lied to your face repeatedly. Do you just give up because you don’t want to invade their privacy? Let them learn the hard less when it isn’t them but the cops that catch them? Some people will deny, deny, deny, until they get caught red handed, and then they can move forward. There are also people who do things that WANT to get caught. They are acting out.
Man, you add a lot of baggage to my posts. (ETA -fun fact, most of my posts I am generally NOT typing with one hand while twirling a gun in the other, wearing a cowboy hat, while draped in an American flag and a stick of beef jerky hanging out of my mouth.)
I don’t know how rare the exceptions are. I am saying this could be a useful tool. Is it abled to be abused? Sure. But at least it’s coming from a place of caring. If the parent didn’t give a fuck they would just let them do what ever. Who cares. I am sure there are some people like the parents in Footloose who are out of touch and authoritarian. But there are many more who are just doing their best to keep their kids safe.
I mean if you thought your child had a gun or a knife, you’re saying you wouldn’t do something to find out or not? You wouldn’t snoop to risk damaging your relationship or violate their privacy?
I think we tend to think of kids just doing weed, which isn’t great for young, still forming minds, but it isn’t like they will OD on it. But kids are also into Opioids which will kill you. Nationally more people die from drug ODs than guns and auto accidents. And this is coming from someone who would legalize weed and even other drugs, so I am not here beating the “argh, drugs bad!” drum.
The best course of action is for everyone to be open and honest with each other and have a dialog. But the world isn’t an after school special.
