Your posts above were very specifically saying that you were perplexed about the kid being able to make the financial transactions without the parents knowing, so that’s what I was responding to. Maybe your parents monitored all spending from your checking account when you were a minor, and that’s fine I guess, but I still consider monitoring every purchase that a child makes to be micromanaging.
And since you brought it up, my kid does model plane building and receives small packages with components from China all the time. I don’t open those up to check what they are either because I trust him.
Obviously some kids are not worthy of that kind of trust, and parents should have good communication with their children and have some idea of what their children are up to, but to me that’s mostly a separate issue from the specific questions you had raised about “how could the kid have possibly made this kind of purchase.”
