I'm glad I read all the intervening posts, including this last one, before posting my replies, because I was going to say the same thing! Although I'm not a good writer, I have a strong vocabulary and no need for grammar or spell checking, so I often mislead people into thinking I can convey my ideas well. Keep up the good work you are doing, I am cheering for you!
Thank you @Max_Blancke for the book recommendation.
That is what I mean. The reason the psychologically damaging situations that wreck lives continue to exist and spread in the public school system is because the rich children aren't there. The rich are the only ones with the ability to effect fast effective change in the schools, but we've made it far cheaper and easier for them to just opt out. It was cheaper and easier for me, and I'm only in the top 2% of worldwide wealth income*, not the top .001% that can really throw their weight around.
I have never advocated that. I support it. I don't support using private school as a way to destroy the schools of the poor. I have nothing against the Hebrew Schools, Chinese Schools, Bible Schools, and other private schools that exist all over the country, which do not supplant publicly funded schools. If you want to give your children extra privileges and you are willing to spend your extra resources to do so, go ahead! But we have to stop wrecking the public school system by pulling all the privileged kids out.
* my income and wealth are misaligned because Mrs. Medievalist gives large portions of our money to social causes like Habitat & Heifer.