Right, like the kid whose dad thought it was a kick to call the cops on an innocent black man. It is important that he listen to what his dad is saying, but he’s not bad for rejecting it.
Abusers play on that guilt about good and bad. “Be a good girl and tell grandma you fell on the sidewalk.” “Good little boys don’t tattle.”
You note he’s saying it’s important to listen versus it’s good to do what you are told.
