Sort of like that…but also I mean people who just want to talk and be listened to. Almost separate from being right - lecturing makes them feel smart and being listened to makes them feel validated. The rightness is a necessary part of it - but sometimes it seems the other parts are more enabled.
An example can be the apology when busted for being unfair, someone apologizes but keeps you there listening to their apology: “I apologize. You see, I’m actually right because…” (grow old waiting for them to be done making their case because they love being listened to.)
It can be sad to need to be heard that badly, and I can have some sympathy. But also it can be pretty rudely passive aggressive - just a time suck that leads nowhere because the real point is you’re stuck listening to them and paying them attention.
