Alright… It’s counter-intuitive to me, but thank you for the explanation. Sometimes it feels like the more important a topic is to me, the less people want me to discuss it, which can feel conspiratorial and weird. FWIW I had a non-trans friend who was burned to death about ten years ago, so I can relate if some of this hits a raw nerve. When things get bad, I tend to go into problem-solving mode.
People could consider the analogy of cause versus symptoms of an ailment. The most comprehensive treatment addresses the underlying cause, which is often subtle and invisible. But that does not make it abstract or separate. How weird would it be to say that someone who tries to work with you to fix the cause of the ailment doesn’t care, because you prefer to focus only upon the symptom? These are two ways of remedying a problem which work better together, not separately, because the goal is the same.
