I had midwives attend my daughter’s birth and I was kind of bought into their whole line of BS. I was all set to have those important first few moments of bonding you can’t get at the hospital. I ended up with the student midwife taking, I kid you not, one hour to sew one teeny tear and my daughter’s dad spent that first hour holding her.
It was not by the textbook, but I had the next 4 months off work and I can tell you, she and I bonded and bonded and bonded, but he had to return to work right away and that one hour meant the world to him. For me, that stuff that gets released when you nurse left me so stoned feeling that I just watched TV with her for those 4 months (mostly fix-up-the-house shows- I can now completely renovate a house at least in my mind.) I am sure we bonded but we also just vegged out a lot too. You can probably do the same with a bottle.
