My boss is defintely a “we’re family here” kinda person, and takes full advantage of all of our weird emotional/professional relationships. she strictly forbids people sharing information about salaries, and even hamstrings people’s work by selectively redacting their project budgets.
I run the job board on our website and so every post comes through me. I brought numbers in to a negotiation about how underpaid I was compared to new program managers coming in off the street (I’m not a project manager but had 8 years in at the time) and she said sharply “where did you get those numbers?!” 
