White man in company van follows black man home to let him "know how much of a N— " he is

What does your comment mean, concerning the continuum between “guarded politeness” and “…damn near ‘Yes massa’"” Are your POC interactees passively-aggressively criticizing what they interpret (wrongly) as a priveleged attitude in you? Maybe even a relatively progressive place feels less progressive from the other side of the culture line.