"She also does a good job of showing how the desire for a feminist sense of autonomy and power over one’s own birth process can lead different women to make very different decisions about what the ideal birth should be — and how those decisions can be (and have been) taken up, promoted, and twisted by people with completely different agendas." Thank you. We forget that it isn't up to us how someone reproduces (or who does) and that includes laboring. Even I do.
As to the diverse parenting styles, I have found that children are diverse and what works for one family just doesn't for others because of the type of kids they have, so of course the world supports wildly different approaches. If the child is fed, loved, nurtured and not being hurt that is the only criteria for it being the right way.