I have a friend from HS who has a birth child and an adopted one. I am not 100% sure where the adopted one is from, I believe some where in Indonesia. AND she has the double wammy of being not the same race and has special needs (I don’t know what is medically wrong with her, but she requires a walker to walk). This is one of those tiger moms who started fund raising in her small town to get all the play grounds covered in that cushy playground covering made of shredded tires. I have heard some jaw droppingly insensitive things recounted such as “is so and so your ‘real’ child?”
People I guess don’t understand how horrible the adoption process is and only some one who really wants to love a child would go through the pain and cost.
The Foster care system is full of people like above, and those who are like the ones you met. There are even worse, while your friends might have at least had a sense of duty to care and provide, if not fully love, there are foster care families where it is out of the fry pan and into the fryer.
I’ve known many people to pass along dogs and other animals because the relationship wasn’t what they were looking for, but to express such an attitude about a child, another human being, is incredible to me.
To be clear I don’t think those people should have pets either, and I’m not even sure I’d trust them with houseplants.
WTFF? It was one thing when we got asked if we wanted to have another kid (and nope thanks, really this one is enough, no really it is wonderful but not again thanks) but that is just fucking… I don’t know if I can put it in words how fucked up that is.
C S Lewis observed back in the 1950s that if you build an “experimental prison” nobody objects, but if you “experiment on prisoners” they do. Same, I imagine, with schools.
