Ask yourself these 4 questions to figure out if you should trust someone

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Those seem like oddly specific questions, particularly about “what I’m trying to create here”

Hard to apply in regularly life.

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Probably the only one of the four that is helpful AFAICT is

Everything is else shake down details. The sensitive compassionate stuff ain’t gonna come from non-neurotypical humans (I am around quite a few of those) and the understanding what the artist/author/creator is trying to create may be non-obvious or opaque, so be prepared to appreciate whatever the feedback is.

Also, get a lot of opinions and average out them out to get a “better” “answer.”

Body language. Tone. Harder to spot if cross-cultural because not all cultures have the same gestures and tones. Trust and lying can be hard to spot and the tells are relative.

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Current research indicates that human techniques for detecting deception are “no more accurate than chance, or flipping a coin.”

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1207/s15327957pspr1003_2

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Does this person genuinely want me to succeed?

So, to determine if you can trust someone, it helps to know that you can already trust them.
What useful advice!

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Do they use lots of obviously false superlatives like “greatest” or “best”?

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I would say the last point is optional if the first three are a clear positive.

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How to know to trust someone:

Do I trust this person’s taste and judgment?

How helpful :laughing:

If I trust them I can trust them.

What a useless piece of fluff.

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If you can fake sincerity, you’ve got it made.

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I would like to see many more people aware of Kagneman’s work, though Thinking Fast and Slow (despite a few parts that haven’t held up well) is maybe an easier starting point.

That said, I hope people also go on to learn that yes, good judgment is still a thing humans can possess, and beyond that, you can train it. See Philip Tetlock’s “Superforecasting,” the Good Judgment project, and its online courseware.

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What a useless piece of fluff.

Yeah, well, Elizabeth Gilbert, so…

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