Yep. She is.
More blatant Misandry!
Is there a lack of Buffy [ETA - sorry, can’t spell] gifs here?
Neat effect right there.
More obvious Misandry!
Rebel forces inciting Misandry
General Misandry leads the charge…
Arya Stark, kickin’ ass and takin’ names.
I dunno, is this more of women being blamed for their own abuse? Like, is she saying that if her mother had stood up for herself, her father wouldn’t have hit her? Or would it just have escalated more? I appreciate her sentiment about her own mode of being in the world and appreciate it, but isn’t a major part of the problem that we’re constantly telling women what they are doing wrong and that no matter what they do, they are wrong?
I dunno, to my ear it was a tale about how she escaped abuse.
I think so, too and I certainly applaud her for sharing her experiences, but I mean the last part, where she talks her mom, how she wanted her mom to speak up more - “why won’t she yell back?” How is that not blaming her mom for her own abuse - if only she’d stand up, she’d have not been abused. Which is probably not necessarily what she meant. And this is especially problematic (not from Nicki necessarily, because she’s just telling us her own subjective experiences, so maybe it’s a bit unfair of me), but women are told over and again, that our proper role is sacrificing ourselves for our families. That to do otherwise is selfish. And women are often punished for the abuse heaped upon their children by abusers, when they are often also the victims of the same abusers… Women (especially with children) in situations like this need non-judgmental help to get out of the situation, not moralizing about how we should be better mothers by sacrificing ourselves for our families or how if only we stood up to the abusers, we’d have saved ourselves.
But again, maybe I shouldn’t take this out on Nicki, as this is just her subjective experiences.
No, you’re right. I’m not even gonna speculate, cause I just don’t have the frame of reference.
On a side note, do you have any more Mansplain’ gifs? I find they make a satisfying, self deprecating yet funny punchline
I don’t know, maybe I’m reading Nicki’s quote wrong, but that’s just what I got out of it. Maybe I thinking about that story of a woman who got a longer sentence (30 years!!! to his like 3 years) when her boyfriend broke her 3 months old ribs, because she failed to protect her child. I mean, that’s the kind of world we seem to be living in now.
You know I don’t know what I have… I’ll dig up more and post them soonish!
I just heard it as the voice of a frustrated child… There certainly is naive victim blaming in her statements – exactly the sort that you cite i.e. implicitly expecting the mother to self-sacrifice.
Yeah, and I don’t want to come down on Nicki for that at all… Just how does her statement just reinforce that sexist notion of the supposedly endless limits of a mother’s love and how you’re just an inadequate human being if you don’t live up to that.
One might interpret this unappreciative misandrist woman as calling out mansplaining, but it is obvious that she just can’t recognize valuable advice.