I don’t doubt how often bigoted assholes cry mysandrany when women gain an inch of ground or as backlash to try shutting down discussion over women’s rights, abuses of women, and how the world needs to change to stop favoring white guys (I am a white guy, about the only privilage I’ve enjoyed from being a white guy is not being arrested or harassed by cops… mostly because I haven’t much left the house my family lives in. Disability sucks. Trust me, you don’t want it.)
The thing is to me it comes off as ‘No I’m not insultng YOU shut up.’ when it’s… hell it feels like it’s perfectly OK to get deep into nut bashing territory. Flip the script a bit.
‘One of the good ones’
Right, I’ve seen that line used to describe guys here clamoring to defend it as ‘just a joke.’ Well I’ve got a stepdad that will sit and do cruel hurtful things, say some of the most vile shit you could imagine, and then when called out on it go ‘It’s just a joke, stop being so sensetive.’
To me it isn’t a joke, it’s greenlighting the same kind of ‘oh it’s Ok to hate some nebulous catagorial Other’ that is the cause of the problem in the first place.
Then I get called out ‘oh he doens’t think it’s proper for property to talk like that.’ No. Just… no, that goes too fr, crosses all kinds of lines and just… No. That’s not OK. I’ve been here with boingboing for a decade, ben in the forums since it started, and to say I consider women ‘property’…
That comes off as exceedingly stupid not to mention it feels very much like ‘OH you don’t agree with me. You aren’t even human. Away with you filth.’
I am an angry person. I put up with a lot because of my family and because of my disabilities keeping me reliant on them as well as general issues of unable to work (setting aside the whole benefits/disability issue it’s a large case of Nobody here will hire me and if they would i can’t get there because family doesn’t want to help and even if they did I’ve got two special needs siblings, mom’s slowly dying because of a bad heart, and I have to babysit on top of that.)
That does not excuse how I act, merely explains part of it.
I just find the mysandrany crap exceedingly unfunny. A thread exists? Woopity doo. I don’t visit it precisely because ‘oh it’s clearly a thing I don’t like. AVOID LIKE THE PLAGUE.’ Just casually posting elsewhere then acting like i’m a troglodyte for being unamused?
I don’t expect anything to change, other than perhaps me getting banned. Let the circlejerk continue unabated I suppose.
I just felt like i should explain myself before the inevetable.