The ‘win’ you speak of isn’t a badge, a trophy you can place in the mantel, money, or credit. It’s watching with a smile of perverse satisfaction as they lose their cool, their dignity, their peace of mind, their sense of community. It’s not just a game, the players are flesh and blood, exacting real tolls.
The trolls attitude is ‘well, if I can take it from you, it’s because you’re weak and you’re argument is weak, and you deserve my contempt, dished out to you in whatever manner I deem fit’. (In the Drama Triangle, you will often see one person flip from role to role in the course of the conflict – victim (most powerful), persecutor, and/or rescuer. Which ever one promises the greatest emo payoff). It’s bullying… but when confronted sometimes the bully dons sheep clothing and bleets their despair loudly, hoping a good p.c. shepherd will step in and offer protection from her alleged persecutors… and that would be anyone caught by the shepherd with their fangs bared at the ‘sheep’.
Bared with good reason, but I suppose the abused could just suck it up. Watch mutely as the troll exits her cave, descends on the village, picks a fight with the locals (most of them sweet nerdy males), robs the tourists and eats their children, shits in the community well, burns down the library (and dismisses the English language), and quickly retreats back to her cave, as the now angry mob starts to gather their pitchforks and torches. This is usually when the troll cries, ‘I’m just a woman! You don’t know how hard it is to be me; you need to be more empathetic! Why are you harassing me?! Leave me alone! What do you mean I shit in your well? I have no idea what you’re talking about. You’re just trying to silence me! You don’t like my tone!’ Oh, it’s piteous. Then the villagers start to mill around in confusion and go home, because who wants to bully ‘the innocent’. They’re all adults volunteers and no one can actually recall seeing the troll eat little Cindy Lou Who.
Personally, as woman, I find those tactics offensive and watching the troll get by with it – for years! – just adds insult to injury.
Why is this serial abuse allowed to continue? I talked to a retired constable, who said it’s because the village council doesn’t give a shit what happens to the villagers in the bbs-burbs. I hope that’s not true. What usually happens though is good commenters pull up stakes and leave. So, once again, the troll wins.