No, bigotry is hardly ever actually about what the contents of the oppressed categories actually are, it is merely an excuse for exploitation, for consolidating power. And that same process works regardless of who is effected, because it is a flawed system, a flawed method. Somebody gets hurt no matter who today’s enemy is seen to be.
The problem is not that individuals or individualism are “bad”, it’s that people, organisms, humans are not in fact individual. It is an ancient ideal which I can empathize with, but not accept uncritically as a fundamental assumption. Nor should anyone need to in order to plan or fix societies.
Exploiting identities and respecting identities are both based upon selfish feelings of personal entitlement, and both rooted in the lazy practice of identification in the first place, a short-cut to thinking, a stereotype. This need not make either side’s proponents intolerant of collectivism, but in practice it seems to occur.
Trying to argue this with an entrenched liberal misses the mark in a way very much analogous to arguing against ownership with a propertarian. They cannot for the life of them fathom the notion that something is not, can not, be owned by anybody. So what they hear is that if you deny their ownership is because YOU are claiming it, no matter how you try to explain, because that “relationship” is fundamental to their world view, and not likely to be examined.
