Uuugh this brings back a special memory of my first couple years here in Phoenix. I moved here when I was 19, and ended up in a really terrible relationship with an emotionally abusive dude. He didn't hit me, but he was really manipulative and just plain terrible. (In fact, had he hit me, I would have left right away. Emotional and psychological abuse are slow burners and are not always easy to identify. It took me the entire relationship to fully realize what was going on and I'm not dumb. That relationship has effected my entire adult dating life.)
He took advantage of the fact that I had moved from a tiny town and was new to the big city and still a little naive. A little over two years into the relationship, and I left. It took me MONTHS after we broke up to get totally rid of him. Apparently there was a fucking key logger on MY computer, along with some other stuff. SUDDENLY SO MUCH MADE SENSE. I felt so fucking stupid (and I'm not stupid nor ignorant of this shit, I was just naive).
This was back in like 2002 (when we broke up), and I can't imagine what it's like now -- he was wicked smart and in IT. You don't need to be those things now to get away with this sort of thing. :/