Cyber-bullying happened then too and I regret to say that I was a cyber-bully. While I got to know the a/s/l of my friends, I never knew much about the others. I had to work hard at developing empathy for the others.
Right, it certainly did happen back then, I just think it was in far less numbers than we see today. The demographics have widened much further since those days and includes far more females in the mix as well. I remember there was times even up to the late nineties when entire BBS systems were still almost exclusively male (not by choice).
Thank you for being so candid. Were you only a cyber-bully or were you a bully offline as well? I ask this because I wonder if many people only bully because they don’t empathize that there’s a real human being on the other end of an online conversation, profile, etc.
I wouldn’t consider myself a cyber-bully, but we did raise some hell and confusion with script kiddy AOHell and assorted other AOL hacks, etc. - We tended to make life hell for the cyber-bullies and even “out” them. Which was wrong. I guess that was bullying the bullies. So, yeah, we were bullies and mob rule will always lead to punishing some false positives.
On the other hand, I tended to be like that offline as well when I was younger and hung with rough dudes that theoretically shot at skinheads, theoretically pulled some Omar Little style heists, etc., but were otherwise nice to most people. I’ll leave out the rest of the stuff. But, I have to admit when “nameless” the skinhead literally pissed himself from the actions of someone he thought was a longhaired hippy, I still chuckle a bit to this today. “Nameless” reformed himself after that. Amazing what a near-death experience will do for some people. But, I’m wildly digressing…
But, yeah… during any time period:
(Language NSFW in most places) F’bombs, etc.
The offline bullies don’t have to work very hard to find their targets online and now bullied teens don’t have as much respite from harrassment as they did back in 1998.
That is most definitely a change from when I grew up with the web.
Yeah, nowadays I often hear about kids finding each other online and it leads to very real offline fights that ironically gets captured on video and loaded back online.
I didn’t hear too much of that beezwax going on in the nineties or even early 2000’s. But I know kids would have done it back then if they had much readier access to easy video, online access, etc.
Overall, I think a lot of kids today are better than some of the bastards I knew in the 80’s and 90’s - But, that’s just my anecdotal experience talking along with the fact that many kids today are far more involved in charity outfits, etc. than in the past. But, then again, maybe that has to do with easier access to online organization along with a Gen X influence, I don’t know.
I think it cuts so much deeper into the positive that the argument is largely an exercise. I am an open-minded person and willing to be convinced otherwise, but the good that is engendered by the internet over its time sure seems to be orders of magnitude greater than the bad.
I agree wholeheartedly. I shouldn’t have used the expression of a double-edged sword because that denoted equivalency. I see far more good getting squeezed out of good people via the Internet than being a enabler for the bad (although the news doesn’t often report it that way). For every rotten trolley picking on a handicapped kid on YouTube, there’s hundreds more creating and voting petitions, quietly using the Internet to educate themselves and others, organizing fun offline events and some offline political stuff, raising money for their sick classmates, etc., etc.
What the government and large corporations are doing with the internet is another story entirely, unfortunately. I think that weighs more towards the bad than the good. Hopefully that will evolve down the road, but I’m not optimistic it’ll be any time soon. Then again, the kids on Reddit and all over the Internet are getting increasingly more restless and that’s going to be an interesting battle down the road. Something we’ve never really seen before in human history, AFAIC. I’m looking forward to it, overall.