I’m in complete agreement. That was my point about this being a cultural shift that is not about laws - at least mainly. Changes to law may come out of the cultural shift, over time, as things formerly not called crimes will be. (More likely, the existing language in legislation will be more-broadly interpreted.)
I mean that Taibbi may well find his book sales plummet, calls for him to be dismissed by Rolling Stone, etc - just as you said, the community can have its own standards that far exceed the law. As I noted, “a shift like divorce being ok”. You could get one legally long before you could get one and not be ostracized.
Yes, this may happen; there could be very much higher standards insisted upon in short order.
Or, not, and just a gradual shift in standards: stuff that was let slide will get criticism, stuff that got criticism will get firing/ostracization, and so on up.
Whether the cultural shift is revolutionary or evolutionary is going to be up to women, and men should just support their call and, I’ve just learned, not even offer input: it’s seen as so biased as to be stupid, which I learned today. (Also, I just briefed my wife on this, and she agrees on both points: that Matt Damon is not all wrong, and that he and I should shut up anyway, because attempts at input are counterproductive.)
Evolutionary is always easier, but progress is not always easy, famously:
“This is no time to engage in the luxury of cooling off or to take the tranquilizing drug of gradualism.”
― Martin Luther King Jr.
…if the loss of Matt Taibbi’s contributions is needed for a real, effective, permanent change on this issue, well, that’s how it will have to be. The “power law” theory I espoused says the smallest of offenses are the most common, injuring (nearly?) all women, and often. Which we already knew! But I wasn’t seeing the full implications.
Maybe the way to stop the small offenses is with small penalties, that’s the “Damon theory”, I guess; but maybe the way to stop it is with draconian penalties. And that’s what men should stop the input on, as well as questions like what “small” and “large” offenses even are.
In sum, I showed up here today on the theory that:
a) insults in print from a tabloid against a more-powerful journalist, even if they did use misogyny, are a lesser offense that sexual harassment in the office, and so
b) deserved lesser cultural penalties, i.e. apologies, retractions, shaming, not book boycotts - which is what some posters were calling for.
But whether I’ve changed my opinion on that, is irrelevant next to the realization that I should not have spoken up on the matter at all, I should have listened; that this input is not (cannot be) taken as helpful or welcome.