First, let me preface with a few credentials: I'm a trans woman who has been hosting an Internet radio show for LGBT people with a focus on trans people and issues for about 12 years, and I'm also a longtime contributor to the Bilerico Project and HuffPo Gay Voices. In short, I've been trans media since before there was anything that could credibly be called trans media. Also, just for the record, I was also one of those who spoke out when Calpernia was being misgendered by straight media after Barry WInchell's murder.
To to be blunt, I think you and Calpernia are being completely unfair and frankly, unnecessarily mean to Parker. She's young, she's new, and she's going to make a few honest mistakes, just as I did and I'm sure you did at that age. It doesn't mean she's got an anti-drag agenda. I've called out RuPaul too, and I'm still doing it. For that matter, so is more and more of the community as time goes on. What's he's doing is wrong, it's deeply offensive to people who have been persecuted and treated like crap enough in our lives, thank you very much, and it needs to stop,
I've gotten to know Parker a little, and while sure, she still has a lot to learn about our community and the people in it, it doesn't mean she's a separatist (seriously?) or out to defame anyone who hasn't done the same to us first.
I have great respect for you and your place in trans history, Andrea. If you have any respect for mine (and I know you may not know me or my work, but just Google), than I hope you'll trust me when I say that the motives being ascribed to Parker here are not fair nor supported by the evidence.
I would encourage both you and Calpernia to stop seeing this as an attack and instead as an opportunity to educate. Don't assume ill intent as is being done here. Offer Parker the same benefit of the doubt you'd hope to receive yourself. I suspect that if you reached out on that basis, you'd find a more receptive audience overall.
Thanks for listening.