I am interested to have a discussion about how BBS might be able to make changes the way it moderates forums that touch on matters to do with sexual assault.
Recently, there was a post about Woody Allen, there were some predictable posts made about Moses Farrow’s and Soon Yi Previn’s experience.
I know I shouldn’t have read the forum given my own experience with childhood sexual assault, but I just found it incredibly distressing to read the forum. I ended up writing a very angry comment directed towards two particular commenters - and then ended up deleting the comment because I just don’t need to bring that energy into the world and also because really I have never seen anyone get their mind changed as a result of fighting on an internet forum.
Even though I deleted my comment I was privately contacted by one of the commenters I had mentioned, apologising for ‘triggering’ me (it’s important for me to note here that I never used the word triggered - that was their word they used), but that I had misconstrued their comments and that the issue was very complex so they were not going to explain themselves further. (Like I don’t know it is complex!) I found having a commenter reach out to me also very distressing, because it seemed to me that the point of their contact was to reiterate that I had not understood them properly not to actually apologise for having ‘triggered’ me. The apology was just a trojan horse.
I was really happy to see Orenwolf come in at the end of the threat and reiterate the importance of believing victims. I really appreciated this.
I don’t know why I am writing this post or what I am hoping BBS to do about it. It’s not reasonable to wrap myself in cotton wool and I knew what was going to happen when I read the thread. Now having written this out I don’t know what I could reasonably expect BBS to do. Maybe a statement up front at the beginning of forums with links to support sites and a statement about believing victims? I just needed to get this off my chest I guess. I don’t mind if you delete this comment if I posted in the wrong forum. Thank you.