Yeah, I wouldn’t really call it a sockpuppet since there was zero obfuscating about the second account and the reasons for it.
On both BB and in 3D life, when someone says “don’t talk to me”, it stings. Sometimes it even hurts. At that particular moment it doesn’t matter if they are the asshole, or you are. But if you insist on ignoring that, or you try to make HR, the mods,your teacher, whoever TPTB are in that situation say to the other person “you must let so-and-so talk to you”, then you’ve just become the asshole.
And if it seems that women are extra sensitive about this issue, it’s because we have generations of watching (mostly men) push right past everything from polite requests to restraining orders to have what they feel they are entitled to. And shades of that are all over this discussion.
You have the right to speak, even on this heavily modded forum if you stay within the rules, but you don’t have the right to draw special attention to your words from any given individual – that is a privilege that can be revoked. Every time you @ someone, use the quote system or reply to them, you are using the alert function to draw their special attention to your words. This is a known function of the Discourse. So don’t @ name, don’t direct reply, and if you quote, type it out manually, without the code. That’s as simple as it has to be, and you can still air your grievances and state your disagreement to the entire board, without special alerting someone who has asked you not to.
That’s all that’s really being asked.
ETA, sorry to direct reply with an essay, it just started out with agreeing about the accounts, honest. And for everyone: You in said essay is generic. @tinoesroho is awesome.
