Seems like half of the country wants to do that all the time, not just when women are pregnant.
True dat.
I have not had similar experiences, but my mileage does vary.
Perhaps.
Therein lies the problem, in a nutshell; I believe that the last few generations have been intentionally but covertly socialized in a way that diminishes the overall capacity for empathy.
May it is seen (by some) as not quite someoneās body but rather something attached to someoneās body? Almost like a piece of clothing or something? Just a guess. I am not a hair toucher.
Well, and Iām a six foot SWM toward whom society conditions people to be more considerate in a way that isnāt collectively representative of American population, so in fact itās probably my experience thatās the exception.
Sadly, while I donāt know how intentional itās been (though Iām open to the possibility) I believe you are correct.
I know Iād be just as squicked out if someone was trying to touch my clothing without asking. Personal boundaries, I guess!
I know. Even if it were ok to touch peoples hair itās not something Iād want to do. Itās not like cultural etiquette is holding me back.
I think so too: curiosity is normal. I used to get that kind of touching in China. Stroking the hairy arms was more common than going for my head, but I once had every hairdresser in the shop take a spell so they could cop a feel of my hair (which does grow pretty thick). But it does get wearing and having someone you donāt know pawing at your head without being asked is unpleasant.
The hair thing I understand, Iāve been āotherā and had it happen to me. But the author also writes:
Later in the day, a man made a comment to me about my skin, telling me how ājealousā he was of how it āhandled the sun.ā I laughed and let him know he should be jealous, because there is no way Iād ever want skin that so easily burned when outside. He laughed and agreed: it did burn. His words burned, too.
Having blue eyes and being extremely pale (to the point Iām frequently asked if Iām unwell or tired) means Iām also rather jealous of skin that doesnāt burn and eyes that donāt need sunglasses in bright sunlight.
I donāt follow why āhisā words would burn, particularly as he was self deprecating enough to laugh with her?
Nano-aggressions?
Heās jealous of the very thing that marks her for prejudice 24/7/365, because of the relatively minor advantage of being less likely to burn in the sun.
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