For pete’s sake, how fucking hard is this to understand?!?!
If you steal a car, that makes you a car thief; even if “it only ever happened once.”
If you murder “just one” person, that still makes you a murderer.
And if you stick anything inside anyone else’s bodily orifices without their permission, you are a fucking rapist.
No matter what other factors are at play; not drinking, not drugs, not “hookup culture”, not alleged promiscuity or sexual history; if you don’t have prior consent, it’s still fucking rape.
ETA:
Holy fucksocks; I cannot believe it that you actually just echoed the dumbest statement I have ever read on the internet.