Actually, doc #12 still forced me to get another human beings permission to make decisions about my own body. He was more about the liability issue if my husband sued him, than about anything else.
I think I'd be a great parent, because I did really well in psych nursing. It's remarkable how many similar issues come up.
But in the end, I don't want to be. When you are young, and present as female, you get a lot of crap thrown your way about how you will regret it, and you don't know what you are doing, etc.
I guess I just can't wrap my head around how it was just assumed that because of being a woman, that I shouldn't be allowed to follow through on the decision to NOT have kids, whereas having kids was fine. I know a lot of great young women these days that also fought for permanent birth control. Hell, even getting an IUD can be a fight.
Why is it culturally okay to question a woman's choice about that, and not about say. . . getting a tattoo, or going to graduate school, or giving birth? I think it has more to do with how we think about gender, and women as nurturing caregivers. If you don't want to get pregnant, or have kids, you go against a cultural role, and that is a tough upstream swim.