I’m fairly insulted by that. They aren’t. Nothing I’ve said implies that they are.
What I would is ask you is why you seem so ready to dismiss the humanity of the people I’m discussing? The policy is not the person.
I’ll tell you a story.
Family member of mine returned from deployment with brain damage and an obvious case of PTSD. Rather than getting treatement for brain damage and PTSD he was sent to anger management. And AA. Required to attend one session of each to maintain his pay check. But also told that if his PTSD and brain damage wound up on paper that pay check would go away.
For 15 years.
Despite being active duty military. Despite having access to the VA and pretty comprehensive insurance. Though he won’t discuss it, it’s likely that he developed a full blown case of bipolar during this time. Something that also when formally undiagnosed and untreated.
He only got formally diagnosed 15 years later. After getting a college degree and a civilian job. Through his civilian insurance. And is finally on meds, has a counsellor, and is getting treatment.
Another family member came into her bipolar (my family is a genetic shit show) in her mid 20s. She did not have insurance. And struggled to get a proper diagnosis. Once she did her public provided coverage was repeatedly cancelled, changed dropped coverage for various things. She spent the first couple years without a therapist or counsellor and without the ability to keep a consistent amount of meds on hand. Could not keep her coverage consistent enough to figure out proper dosages, which drugs worked etc. And ended up borderline psychotic when family members finally learned enough about the situation to jump on a plane and physically show up to help. Took her about 3 years to get stable.
Noone told her she was going to lose her job, insurance, pension, get dropped out of college, etc if she sought treatment. Noone told her “hey you’re bipolar, but we’re going to put down “alcoholism” because the higher ups don’t want to see psychological problems at the rate we’re seeing. And it could effect your medical coverage”. Noone at a hospital that is legally obligated to help her for free. Told her not to come back, because her problems were “too complicated”. And it didn’t take her 15 years of knowing what was wrong before the people who told her what was wrong were willing to do anything about it.
Both of these things are bad. But one of these things is more bad. Not because anyone has a hard on for the military. But because it’s more bad. Going 3 to 5 years without proper diagnosis and treatment of severe psychological illness. Is not as bad as going over a decade with the same. Except physical injuries are also on the table and you know exactly what’s wrong. Even these two family members. When they’re in a room together acknowledge that and frequently discuss it.
The wash out I mentioned earlier has a drawer full of recreational psych meds and boner pills from the exact same VA hospital that stone walled the military family member’s diagnosis. He likes to hand out zanax at bars.
But yes the real problem here is that the terminology used brushes you the wrong way.